Broken trust is very difficult to rebuild. It is not impossible, however. Whether in friendships or in marital partnerships, trust is very important. With every trustworthy act done by either party, the trust gets stronger everyday. In marriage, if one of the spouses enters into an extra-marital affair, the relationship would be broken and trust would be put to severe strain and in a lot of cases, it breaks beyond mending.
When such extra-marital affair occurs, the couples need to reassess their love for each other. Trust does not come back at the snap of a finger or after a talk of the couple over a cup of coffee. It takes time. Such time, however, is not the kind of passive waiting. Rather, the couples should also be willing to lay down their own claims and let go of some of their rights.
Rebuilding trust also requires healing. The heart has to find healing first if it were to be capable of loving and trusting again. After undergoing a very difficult situation, it would have to feel once again that it is whole and not only a part of what it once was. If you give it time and work on healing, forgiveness will come in time.
