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Your Social Network after the Affair
When you are married and have kids, it is so easy to get bogged down by the details of life. You spend your time working and running the household. You have to look after the kids. It is easy to become so busy that you barely have time for your partner and for your kids. Because of your busyness, you might even forget to maintain your relationships with your parents and your siblings. Even your social network of friends and acquaintances might have suffered.
When you forget about everything else and your marriage and your family is everything you’ve got, your whole world may crumble after the affair. Suddenly, you find out that there are just a handful of people beside you. That could be very devastating and depressing.It makes that pain more intense and the loneliness more alienating.
When you are on your path to recovery from the affair, you need your social network. Your friends and your immediate family can help you sort out your feelings and stand on your feet again.You need friends that care about you. You need people that want to see you at your best rather than setting you up for dates with their other friends or themselves. It is important not to confuse intensity with intimacy. Going through intense tough times can bring people together, but that does not make it intimacy.
After the affair, don’t ever forget to maintain your social network. If they helped you go through the affair, they can also help you with your marriage. If your friends are married, they might have gone through several experiences before. When they relate these experiences to you, these can be lessons that you can heed when dealing with your own marriage.
You don’t have to be a psychologist to understand that individuals need support groups if they were to remain sane and go through the challenges of life. The same is true for marriage. When you have a support group through your social network, you can better work out your marriage even after an affair.
