After attending the funeral for my best friend of 40+ years, I was reminded of the importance of friends and friendship with the challenges we face. This is especially true regarding affairs.
One of the crucial items needed in surviving an affair is a good friend who will accept you in all your weirdness all the while hoping that you return to your ‘old self’ and your senses. During the craziness which accompanies affairs, there are many people who will offer advice and direction, when the thing you need most may be a place to sleep and someone to share a pizza with.
You need a friend that believes in what you can be, rather than someone who parties with you or encourages you to try new forms of weirdness. You do not need an instigator, you need a friend. True friends often function like landmarks or reference points which help you regain your bearings and help you return to being ‘on course’ in your life. They remind you of what is truly important to you. They also know you may need some time before you are ready to return to your old self.
In the chaos of dealing with an affair, it often seems like your world has been turned upside down. You are confused and do not know what to do or where to go. During such times, you need a friend who like a homing beacon remains calm and steady, letting you know they are there. That steady beacon also gives reassurance about life, letting you know that life does go on, and that the sun will rise tomorrow. The calm steady beacon often helps people regain their sanity and lives.
In such times, you need a good friend, you do not need a new flame. You do not need a new lover or a rekindles old lover-You need a friend.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey D. Murrah
In Remembrance of Kirk D. Smith (1958-2010) who accepted me in my weirdness and helped me through my crises.
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