Drag them out of Lala land!

You probably wonder “How do I drag my spouse out of lala land?” When your spouse always seems to be in a fog, unresponsive, and living in another world, you want to ‘wake them up’.

They act like a robot being controlled by their lover, rather than act like your spouse. Even when you look at them, it seems like no one is home upstairs.

When you are faced with this ‘affair fog’ or lala land phenomena, what do you do?

Rather than wander around without a clue, there are things that you can do. I wrote yesterday about the danger of passivity. This being in lala land goes back to the mind being passive and on automatic pilot.

Rather than suffering through this ordeal, there are steps that you can take to turn the situation around.

1. Have them do things to engage their mind. This would be problem solving and tasks requiring concentration. Have them do some math, or solve some problems.
2. Provide them with new experiences. Try out new food, travel to some new places. Activities which require attention and concentration are preferred.
3. Have them exercise. Get them up and moving. The more active the exercise the better. Swimming, competitive shooting, and running would be good activities.
4. Encourage them to sing. Singing stimulates the vocal chords and breathing.
5. Go for walks together for at least 15-30 minutes a day. While on the walk, have them look in different directions.
6. Get them out in the daylight.
7. Have them do body movement exercises. Have them move their neck, arms, legs several times a day. When people are locked into the passive mindset of lala land, they want to remain sedentary. You’ll want to do just the opposite of that.

Get them active and moving. Movement starts breaking up the passivity.

I recognize that some of these items may come as a surprise. Yes, I know that you would rather yell and drag them around. When you yell, they will tune you out and go deeper into lala land.

When you drag them around, they can passively just ‘go for the ride’. You want to get them out of that passive mindset rather than continuing it. The waking up will be a process. It will be a gradual waking up. This waking up occurs with engaging their mind. Get their mind active. You want them to go from passive to active functioning.

Best Regards,

Jeff

 

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