Angry Spouses and Living with them, Part III

Years ago, there was a Clint Eastwood movie named ‘Magnum Force’ which gained popularity for the line “A man’s got to know his limitations.” This sentiment is essential in dealing with affairs, especially with angry spouses.

If you’re the angry spouse, you definitely need to ‘know your limitations’ and not exceed them. If you’re not the angry spouse, you still need to know what your limitations are.

You need to know how far you’ll let things go. Being clear on your limitations helps both you and your spouse know what the boundaries are.

When you are fuzzy on your limitations, you’re vulnerable to being manipulated. You keep moving the limits, until you’re in deeper than you ever imagined.

The affair and anger will take you to places you never imagined going.

When you throw a boundary erasing behavior like infidelity in the mix of no limitations, it creates chaos and confusion. When the chaos and confusion erupts into insecurity.

I mention these things, since insecurity, anger and fear or any other emotional instability can be used as an excuse for an affair. While emotionally upset (unbalanced) the cheater makes questionable choices.

There are times that the instability and affair connection is intentional and times that it occurs by accident. Either way, the connection is there.

Knowing this connection, it’s easier knowing your limitations and not exceeding them, rather than pushing the relationship into an unstable state where the risk of an affair is higher. This risk is even higher when there is a history of affairs.

In such cases, since the cheater has used infidelity to deal with issues before the risk is higher that they’ll do it again.

Knowing your limitations is not just about creating a more peaceful home, it is about reducing the risk of an affair or a relapse into an affair. The connection between anger and affairs is real.

It’s also about protecting yourself from violence and threats. Knowing your limitations makes it clear when action is needed.

Rather than finding out about it through experience, you can learn ways of avoiding the danger. In the video “Overcoming Affair Relapse”, you’ll learn what danger signs to look for along with ways of dealing with them.

I invite you to order a copy today. The more you ‘give in’ to keep the peace, the worse things are going to get.

Best Regards,

Jeff

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