Some of you know that your relationship is not healthy. You know that it is sick and dysfunctional. Despite knowing the truth, you do not want to confront the cheater or take actions since it may hurt them. You may be caring more about their emotions than they do about yours. When they cheated on you, they probably did not consider your emotions. If they did, they only tried to hide it from you as a lame attempt to reduce the pain. Bottom line, if they are hiding it from you, they know that what they did was wrong.
Putting off the pain will not make it any more tolerable. All it does is drag out the hurt. When you hurt, you need to take action. When there is hurt in a relationship, it is a sign that you need to take action. Although you may not want to hurt them with the truth since it is the holidays, the reality, is that the holidays are the best time to address the hurt. People are often more willing to forgive and make changes on the holidays. By delaying saying anything, you may be passing up a great opportunity for reconciliation.
If you decide to reconcile, you may want to pick up a copy of “Learning to Trust After the Affair“. This new release addresses the issue of trust and how to start reconstructing it in your marriage. If you do not know where to begin, this is the place to start.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
