Your spouse may consider themselves ‘enlightened’. With their supposed enlightenment, they view shame as an archaic thing from the past. They may view being ‘modern’ or ‘progressive’ as being beyond shame. In previous generations, shame was often what kept many potential cheaters from philandering. The prospect of the shame it would bring to themselves, their reputations and their families was often enough to discourage wayward thinking spouses from straying. With supposed enlightenment, shame no longer prevents spouses from wandering. Cheating in some circles is viewed as a badge of honor or a right of passage.
Shame is important in that it wakes the cheater up to the potential consequences of their actions. All actions have consequences. The law of cause and effect makes this abundantly clear. Some scientific thinkers propose circular logic and attempt finding ways around cause and effect. Those thinkers share much in common with modern cheaters, in that they are trying to find ways around cause and effect. They assume that since they do not believe their will be consequences, the consequences won’t happen to them. Shame was a way of alerting them to those potential consequences. When the cheater does not see the consequences, they are like a car heading downhill without brakes.
Shame is a good thing. It keeps cheaters from making impulsive choices and puts up an invisible fence that reminds cheaters to stay put.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
