Flirting or Mental Seduction?

When your spouse flirts have you considered if it is flirting or mental seduction? I often have concerns when cheaters flirt anyway, since they often start loosing control once the flirting starts.

When you consider that 86% men, 81% women flirt with the opposite sex you realize how big an issue flirting is.

There is also the problem with people flirting with you or your spouse. How can you tell when what started as innocent flirting is actually a form of mental seduction?

Seduction often starts getting serious in the head. It is here that the seducer starts fantasizing. They mentally plot out how things are going to go, down to what they say.

Some seducers are consciously aware of what they are doing, others have done it so often, it is second nature. Give them a few drinks and the inner seducer comes out.

Seducers know that by engaging the head of their target, arousal begins. Once their target is aroused or curious, they begin using that against their resistance.

Once the heads engaged, tools like humor or physical stimulation are ways of testing limits. When physical stimulation is not used, finding ways of dulling their senses works are employed.

It is a way of tipping the scales in their favor by having their target have an internal struggle. It is hard getting into someone’s pants when they resist you, when they resist themselves, it makes the seducers job easier.

I view flirting as turning to mental seduction when the content is intentionally sexual. Sure there are some slips, yet when they make frequent sexual references, or attribute a sexual meaning to whatever is said, a mental seduction is underway.

Experienced seducers know what signs to look for indicating that their target is ‘taking the bait’. Rather than dismiss flirting as ‘harmless’, when you are living with a cheater, it becomes dangerous very easily.

Best Regards,

Jeff

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