One of the useful pieces of information that is needed but rarely talked about when it comes to cheating is the risk of murder that often accompanies cheating. In a quick review of the news this week shows, a Grammy nominated Christian singer is accused of being involved in a murder for hire case where he wanted his wife removed from his life after having an affair. Then there is the Jodi Arias trial, which although not directly related to an affair, was the result of unbridled passions that led to murder.
It is not limited to the United States either. In Manchester a man was killed by his ex-girlfriend related to her ‘cheating’. IN New Zealand, a man killed his girlfriend out of his fear that she was cheating. In England, a man stabbed his wife to death in front of her son on finding out that she was cheating on him and a man kills his girlfriend so that he and his new lover can split her cash. In Ireland, a woman set fire to a residence, killing five family members in a situation involving an affair.
In Columbus, Ohio, cheating eventually led to the murder-suicide of an elderly couple. In Oklahoma, the trial began for a woman who killed her husband, the local fire chief related to an affair. In Dorchester, an ex-wife was murdered by her former husband after he alleged that she was cheating. So even divorcing someone does not remove the risk of murder.
The risk of death associated with affairs is high. It is not an “American” thing. The risk is not limited to the young. It is not limited to men or women. It is not caused by guns, or edged weapons. These murders all had one thing in common,…..affairs. When you have an affair, you are risking your life and the life of your lover. When murder occurs, it may be the cheater, the lover or the spouse of the lover. Affairs are NOT a risk free proposition. When the risk involves taking your life or your spouses life in your own hands, it is not a harmless or victimless crime. The pages of the news are filled with ‘victims’ of affairs. The time to stop an affair is now, or better yet, before they happen. The passions aroused with affairs are not controllable, whether by money, values, age, education or other items as these stories illustrate.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
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Six years after D DAY this is STILL a concern for me and our family ,…Even as my husband continues to care for the children of the OW …they are all unstable . He feels that if he is just in contact they will see he cares for them and that should quell any future possibilities of resentment and rage. Even now they all see a psychologist and take some sort of drugs for various areas of character weakness and lack of self control
I shudder to think as those children grow up and have more independence what kinds of behaviors may result from not having any moral boundaries set or character development. They are being raised to be godless and immoral.
I petition the Lord to protect us since my husband does not see the necessity of learning to live by the Biblical truths that would supply him and them of wisdom and whys for all that is occurring in the world and due to the sin that he and their mother have lived in for so long.
When we observe crime rising among younger and younger children ..whose hearts have been defiled by abandonment by parents who do not have knowledge of how to raise their children and leave it up to institutions and then wonder ‘where do they get these ideas ‘ that result in some pretty tragic outcomes….it is simply a matter of allowing what GOD would teach them to become their standard of measure of what is right or wrong !
I note that despite my urging and the testimony of all those who have raised children by the things that parents also submit to in the lordship of the Lord ….the godly character that is authentic and genuine it means next to nothing to my husband.
He has been to some of the home school conventions after D DAY and obeserved many of the fine and fruitful outcomes in children and teens raised to honor God and their parents authority and to follow after the word of GOD .
The foundation of this cannot be estimated too highly
The outcomes of regarding the God of the Bible who is the Creator and designer of all things..is undisputibly excellent. Not that we are perfected in our flesh but simply sound wisdom guides a life surrendered to the learning and living by it.
My husband JUST came in from a day where he basically ‘disappeared’ all day ..He felt that he had no necessity to inform any of us. It turns out that he went over to the Other children and took them to a movie that he was supposed to take our daughters to .
This may seem like nothing big to anyone ..it was after all ..’just a movie’ but our daughters have been wanting to see this movie ..we do not go often …and they even went to great effort to find ways to save money on the tickets by finding coupons related to getting discounts.
This kind of disregard though he knew how important this particular movie was to them..meaningful to their interests ..and placing the TIME which was to be OUR family time..aka the weekend in the pursuit of the other children ,leaving our family without any idea where he was so that we began to be concerned about his welfare ….since he has not been feeling well and is depressed…It just was absolutely a deliberate form of intentional disregard for the way he has been called upon to put his wife and family before all others.
This is the protocol of marriage and family …he has ignored it.
When I asked him why he did not keep his word about discussing things like this with me BEFORE he did it he said he felt he did not have to .
So it was actually LYING by NOT telling me what was up …and refusing to discuss it …and it was STEALING from the time that was supposed to be by his agreement …with his family ..on top of this it functions as a form of ‘infidelity ‘ in terms of the children of his marriage covenant.
It is tricky business but it was DECEITFUL and is SIN …
I am not GOD but I will say that his ability to deceive himself into minimizing what he has had many times been given how this is an act of sin by lying , stealing and cheating on his family by withholding access to information …just lands upon deaf ears.
He refuses to hold himself to accountability that the function of a relationship with the Lord would bring about and remains in a state of depression which no doubt comes about from doing what he KNOWS is in violation of what is laid out in terms of protocol of the order of a married man .
These things are simply vile to me. I also feel that he will be ‘eaten’ up by sorrow that refuses to turn from variables of sin disregarded…minimized and rationalized
As I see it his lengthy killing of his own conscience over the lengthy adulterous arrangement with the OW and NOW the replacement of the children of that arrangement has placed UNLAWFUL boundaries between himself and GOD and between himself and me .
Those walls that he has rebuilt are all a ‘fruit’ or ‘product’ of the influences of darkness that have had a grip on his mind for a very long time.
I pray that the Lord will bring about some eventful ways to deliver him from such deceptions,.
I would have thought that hurting our daughters in this way would prevent him from doing something like this ..It may not seem like anything much to anyone but it is the issue that he KNEW it does MATTER to THEM and yet he still went out and deliberately did this
It is hard to see how someone who claims to care about the hurt he has caused would not look out for doing ANYTHING that might cause further damage.
Those other children might enjoy a movie day with him but this particular movie was not something they expected to enjoy with him ..and our daughters are subjected time and again to this kind of demonstration that what matters to them is not all that important to their father.
Same way he knew what would hurt me and did not concern himself about it …but he was very reactive to whatever the OW might suggest ….
Deception …destruction …comes right behind. HE says he has done’ everything he can’ to be careful to do what is right …but that is a LIE too ..since he has been given many of the ways he might concern himself to make the kinds of choices that are called for and has ignored all of them
He is due for a very large and frightening outcome with those other children since neither he nor she has the fortitude or strength of unselfish character to take the time and effort to train them up. ..they are often alone…and at home with the computer ..NO ONE is monitoring their use …no one is training them to discern what they view and evaluate it’s appropriateness so that they enter life with the skill to learn what is useful and healthy for them ….it is like a train coming down the tracks with no brakes!
Eph 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Dark days ahead for these and the many like them…and then people wonder ‘what happened ‘ to our nation!
Mat 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.
Psa 11:3 If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?
Recently listening to Ken Ham’s ‘State of the Nation #2 on youtube made this point well ..the foundation of the origin of all we live in around us is found in Genesis….but many have made concessions to the world of ‘pseudo science’ and thus the foundation is being ‘destroyed ‘ in terms of the Word of GOD ..doubt and a slide into accepting many false premises….abound.
The sand that many build their lives upon will collapse just as many who live in landfill areas have sadly had to suffer. It will not stand …we must build upon the foundation of the ROCK ..who is Jesus Christ .
What God gave us in terms of learning about the BEGINNING is far more important than many believe even among believers…..Compromise with those who do not care to believe what IS ‘observable and testable ….which true science is based upon …but will take any kind of thought that denies the truths of GOD and then wonder ‘ what happened here” ??
Pro 28:1 The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion.