In doing a recent interview for Affair Recovery Groups, it struck me that many cheaters do not fully realize the full impact of their action. The act of cheating is utterly devastating. It re-defines the marriage across the past, present and future. As the resolute spouse, cheating changes how you look at the marriage and what it means to be married to the cheater. The act of cheating forces a total re-examination of your whole relationship. The cheater may view it as a time of weakness and temptation, whereas you view it as a total rejection of the marriage and invalidation of the marriage vows.
In short, what may be viewed by the cheater as a whim is experienced differently by you. The whole world comes tumbling down with the realization of the cheating. All the promises and plans are suddenly invalid. Promises can be made, but can they be kept? If the cheater lied to you before, what makes the new promises different?
With the world tumbling down, you are in need of a total makeover. Not just a tone up at the gym, and better self-care. You need a new you from the inside out. You need a makeover in the marriage as well.
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Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
