Affairs impact your health. Anything you do with your body impacts your health. The question of the degree of impact depends on many factors.
Affairs and Health <<– listen to the audio here
Hi, this is Jeff Murrah with Affair Recovery Radio. I’m glad you tuned us in today and that you decided to be with us. Today we’re going to be talking about affairs and health. We;ll also explore the question “What is the connection between affairs and health?”
Without a question, affairs impact your health. Whether you’re the one having the affair or your spouse had the affair. There’s an impact on health. Anything you do with your body impacts your health. Including affairs.
The concern is how much impact the affair will have. The degree of impact depends on many factors. Whether or not you’re the cheater, or the one who was cheated on, is just one of those factors.
Other factors include your age, your health status, the environment that you live in, and lifestyle. And there’s several other factors, but these are some of the main ones that you’re going to want to consider.
Along with these factors, your choices impact your health. The added stress of an affair always aggravates many other health conditions. For instance, if you had a health condition and then an affair came along, whether your affair, your spouse’s affair, it can aggravate the health conditions that you’re already dealing with.
If you’ve got a nervous stomach an affair can make the symptoms even that much worse. Maybe it’s some other malady, such as asthma, or high blood pressure, or some of those types of issues.
The stress of an affair definitely aggravates any of those conditions. And you can definitely see some of the connection between affairs and health. You may have just never made the connection.
I know the lie that’s out there, “Well it’s just something between two adults”. Well, that may be an excuse, but what’s going on is definitely affecting your health and the health of your spouse.
You’re going to have to realize that. Your spouse may not have physically done something to you, but just in having the affair it puts an added amount of stress on your life and it definitely impacts things.
In terms of a solution, or steps that you can take to start dealing with this, the main goal is going to be you’re going to have minimize the impact of the affair on your health.
1. The first thing to do, of course, is to “Stop the affair”. Find a way to stop what’s going on. That’s the best way to minimize the impact. Even start to reduce things.
Under this, in terms of minimizing the impact of the affair, you want to contain the health impact. What I mean by containing it, much like a virus or anything else, you want to go ahead and contain to isolate what’s going on.
The way to start doing this is to get checked out by your physician. The cheater may have a sexually transmitted disease, you may have a sexually transmitted disease. There might be something else.
I mentioned the blood pressure and the nervous stomach, some of these other conditions. Get checked up by your physician. Don’t just willy-nilly ignore these things. Because you do need to get them checked out.
2. Reduce the high risk behavior. Affairs are definitely high risk, but many times people will continue engaging in high risk lifestyles even after the affair. If you’re a person that’s involved with high risk behaviors, these make any health issue worse. You need to recognize that danger.
If you or your spouse is engaged in high risk behavior, even after the affair, it aggravates things. Aggravate any kind of health issue that’s going on. It makes things worse.
This may mean that you have to cut out drinking and smoking, at least during the recovery phase. Some of these things, after the affair is resolved and passed on, if you enjoy the high risk behavior you can get back to it.
During affair recovery, if it’s already impacting your health, you want to cut those out.
3. Improve your self-care. This is important because during affair recovery you will need your health.
You’re going to have to be pulling on all your resources, including your physical resources. And basic things, like getting enough exercise, getting enough sleep, eating right. These are things that make a difference in terms of how well you are able to recover from your spouse’s affair.
There’s many types of health issues that can be impacted by affairs. It’s not just sexually transmitted diseases. It’s also those various disorders that some people would call psycho-somatic. It’s not that you imagine them happening, it’s just that psychological factors can aggravate them and make them worse. The damage going on there is definitely real. Affairs can make those things worse.
If you already have a weakened health condition, the stress of an affair can aggravate it.
What I’m wanting you to take away from the session today is realize there is definitely a connection between affairs and health, and it’s not a good one. It’s not one of these where affairs improve your health. No. It’s just the opposite. It’s not in your best interest.
There is a connection, and the solution is going to be to minimize the impact of the affair on your health. I gave you some things to go ahead and start doing. Number one, contain the health impact. This is going to mean get checked up by your physician, get things contained while you can.
Two, reduce any high risk behavior. And three, improve your self-care. These are things that you can start doing right away, even after this phone call. Go ahead and call and make an appointment, start getting things rolling.
Don’t keep putting it off. Because once your health is gone it’s going to make it that much harder to cope with many aspects of the affair.
If you’re not sure where to start, the video “Getting Past the Affair Crisis”. The information guides you through the early days when self-care is important.
Best Regards,
Jeff
