One of you readers asked the question, “Is it common for someone who lied about their affair to lie about illness?” The answer to this one is ‘yes’.
When a cheater goes to the point of lying as a way to cope with every discomfort, it’s not likely that they’ll change when it comes to an illness. They’ll likely follow the same pattern they are already in.
People, including cheaters are creatures of habit.
The problem is that they have the character illness of lying. When lying has becomes a way of life, they use it for everything, including physical illness.
The lying may be an outright lie or omissions of key pieces of information. Either way, you are led to believe something that isn’t true.
In a liar’s mindset, they would rather live in the world they create. They want to believe their own lies and often do with a degree of sincerity.
The rules they live life by are dictated by their own mind and what they choose to believe rather than what is. This is the case for how they handle affairs along with how they handle illnesses.
They merely apply the mindset and approach to life they are used to and apply it to all areas of their lives.
For them, it’s easier creating a falsehood than to live in reality. This remains true even in the face of illness or disease. They hold to the idea of ‘mind over matter’ to the degree that they can actually ‘create’ a world.
They don’t take in consideration that their world is a self-centered world that doesn’t fit in with the reality of other people, other events, including relationships and health issues.
In some ways, it’s a type of primitive magic. In their mind, if they can imagine it, then it must be real. They are the producers of the production they are a star of.
Although the lies helped them cope and bought some time related to the affair, in the long run, it failed them. They don’t realize that their lies failed them. They don’t accept their own limitations or the wrongness of affairs.
This same ‘mind over matter’ is applied to their job, their daily life and their health. They don’t want to believe something, so they tell themselves lies about it.
Once again, it may buy them time and give some temporary comfort, but it isn’t a lasting or real solution. They likely apply such thinking to areas such as finances and legal matters as well, with the same negative outcomes.
In the ebook, “Why Wasn’t I Enough?“, you’ll find answers to the most commonly asked questions about affairs.
Best Regards,
Jeff
