You become what you’re focusing on

An important question in recovery from an affair is “What are you focusing on?” In many cases, your mind may be confused and overflowing with thoughts. Even in such a jumbled state, there is something or someone who you focus on.

What you focus on makes a HUGE difference in how things go and what happens.

When you focus on something, it becomes your goal. By selecting a focus, you activate your problem solving skills in going after the object of your focus. You find a way to attain what you are focused on.

Even when you are resting or sleeping, your mind is at work on attaining the object of your focus.

If your goal is revenge, you’ll find ways of attaining revenge. Your mind follows the marching orders you give it in seeking after that object of your focus.

When you focus on something, you head toward it. If you are focused on the other man or woman, you’ll head toward them. You’ll feel driven toward the object of your focus.

This explains the phenomena of wanting to talk with the lover. You’ve focused on it so much, that now you want to do it.

Your focus permeates your thinking.Even the business world knows this. Business leaders know that what you focus on..gets done.

Even when you think you are not wanting to think about the object of your focus, your mind is operating unconsciously in heading toward that focus. Many cheaters know this.

They focused on their lover prior to the affair, which contributes to them being in zombie mode and falling into an affair ‘without planning to’ or ‘thinking about it’. Since they focused on the lover for such a long period of time, they literally put themselves on automatic pilot when the affair finally happened.

Another danger of focus is that ‘you start becoming what you focus on.’ When it’s in front of your mind, you start becoming like it. If it’s a person, you start becoming like them. If it’s the sex, you start obsessing over sex and so on.

It makes no difference whether you are focusing on them based on love or hate, what you focus on, you start to become like. You will develop similar attitudes, habits, and even gestures.

This is why focusing on the lover or your spouse can become dangerous. You can find yourself becoming what you detest simply due to you choosing to focus on them.

So as your life starts spinning out of control, be careful where you focus your heart. It will determine whether you crash or survive. It will set the course for you to follow.

If you don’t know where your focus should be, the download “Affair Recovery Workshop” helps. You can regain your mind and redirect your focus when you know what needs your attention and what should be avoided.

You can have renewed confidence in yourself and your marriage with the help provided in the workshop. Just click the link, fill out the form and start the transformation.

Best Regards,

Jeff

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